7 deadly sins in marriage

Much has been said of the Seven
Deadly Sins in religious dialogue.
But do they really affect your
marriage? Follow the links below
for a discovery of eternal truths
that can save your marriage.
Lust
Lust is characterized by excessive
thoughts of a sexual nature, or
uncontrollable, sickening sexual
desire. Today there is much talk of
sex addiction. Pornography,
adultery, fornication or that same
uncontrollable sexual desire can
destroy your relationship. A
healthy sexual relationship is vital
in marriage. Make sure your
partner is sexually satisfied so that,
ultimately, he is not tempted to go
out looking for sexual gratification
somewhere else or by other means.
If in your relationship you do not
get enough sex, master your
impulses and learn how to ask
properly and prepare your partner
so she feels the desire to be with
you sharing those sacred and
intimate moments. Chastity is the
opposite of lust.
Sloth
Sloth is closely tied to its sister,
indifference. A mind that is not
busy doing something productive is
a mind that does not function; it is
somewhat ill or null and void. You
should not treat your spouse with
an attitude of indifference. Fulfill
your home and work
responsibilities with enthusiasm.
When your spouse wants to tell you
something, give her your full
attention. Find out how she really
feels, does she need something?
Does she feel sick or hungry? Or
does she want to chat or go for a
walk? Avoid activities that are just
for you, like playing videogames, or
surfing the Internet. Your partner
will surely also want to spend time
with you after so many hours apart
from the workday. Diligence is the
opposite of sloth.
Gluttony & Drunkenness
Gluttony and drunkenness is
unnecessary or excessive
consumption of food and harmful
substances. Alcohol or drugs fall
into this category. These practices
are addictive and destructive.
Alcohol, for example, can lead to
acts of violence or other
inappropriate behavior that will
make you feel terribly ashamed
later. None of these excesses will
build your self-esteem, on the
contrary, they will destroy it and
you will lose your self-respect and
sense of individual worth. Your
spouse, who loves you, will suffer
endless hours of loneliness and
despair unable to fight a vice that
seems invincible. Avoid any
excesses, and completely avoid the
use of any substance that causes
dependency, because this will only
lead you to a dead end.
Temperance is the opposite of
gluttony.
Wrath
Wrath is also known as anger, rage
or hatred. It is a feeling of
impatience and intolerance. Do not
be angry with your spouse, be
patient. Keep in mind that everyone
makes mistakes. Face life with a
sense of humor and you will see
that nothing is as bad as it seemed
a moment ago. Learn to control
your emotions. Practice
meditation, read the Bible or other
religious books that brings peace to
your soul. Pray to your God,
breathe deeply and take a few
moments to cool your head when
someone says something that
irritates you or does something you
don’t like. Control your tongue.
Don’t say the first thing that comes
to mind. Think carefully before you
speak and never ever use violence
against your spouse. Remember
that violence can be physical,
verbal or emotional. A good dose
of patience, the virtue opposed to
anger, will calm those raging
impulses. Patience is the opposite
of wrath.
Envy
Envy is a harmful emotion that
feeds on and enjoys watching the
suffering of others. It not only
makes you want what someone else
has, but also makes you want to
deprive another person of what
they have. In your relationship you
should never belittle your spouse.
Treat her as your equal. You must
have empathy for her sorrows. You
should try to make her happy. If
you feel miserable for some
reason, do not drag her into the
abyss. Be happy for her
accomplishments, even if it means
you are out of the spotlight for a
moment. Charity is the opposite of
envy.
Greed
Greed is another sin of excess.
Greed is the need to acquire
material things. If you are the sole
provider for your family, it does
not mean that all the money is
yours and only you can administer
it and spend it. If you and your
spouse work, do not keep track of
individual profits. Put all the wages
in a single bank account. This way
you will not feel that one
contributes more than the other.
Do not obsess over making more
and more money. You will never
feel satisfied with how much you
have saved, because you can never
get enough of what you don't need.
Spend, instead, more time with
your spouse. Spend quality time
together and enjoy the fruits of
your labor. What good is it to
gather and save goods and riches
and never enjoy them? Generosity
is the opposite of greed.
Pride
Pride is also known as the mother
of all sins. Other synonyms are:
arrogance, vanity, insolence and
vainglory. It stems from enmity, as
explained by the religious leader
Ezra Taft Benson. A proud person
will never apologize; in a marriage
relationship that attitude becomes
a deadly weapon. In a relationship
where none, or just one of them, is
humble enough to ask for
forgiveness, with surety will not
become a nest of happiness and
bliss. Learn to be humble, to love
and respect your partner. Control
your ego and recognize the
excellent abilities, gifts and talents
of your spouse. Recognize her
efforts to please you. Be a faithful
friend and constant companion to
the person you promised to spend
the rest of your days with.
Humility is the opposite of pride.
You can change!
Are you guilty of any sins in your
relationship? If so, it is never too
late to change one of the seven
deadly sins for one of the seven
virtues in marriage.